Shalom every body! I’ve been thinking about one subject for quite a long time now. After I came across this bloog and read some of the comments to som questions and so on it feels that this is a right place to put my question on. It is my sincere hope that you guys will shed some light to my question. Here is my short question. As believers, born again and spirit filled, is it correct/right  thing to get married to an unbeliever/a person with good moral?I hope the question is clear. Some bible verses would be good to have. thank you in advance for your help/answers.May the Lord bless you in all aspects of your life!!
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Hi there! Here’s your answer mate:
“If any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, let him not send her away.
And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, let her not send her husband away.
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.”
1Cor 7:12-14
Paul’s letter to the Corinthians tells a great deal about everyday living and our relationships with one another from the nucleus of family to the community to the world.
Wow! A Christian blog from Singapore…how cool! I’d just never looked until last night…
I’d add to the prior answer, all of chapter 7 (of 1 cor). See esp vs 39. While the above verses are good to keep in mind, the context also assumes an already-married couple, w/ one of them finding Jesus. Obviously, that’s the opposite of your situation.
Besides that, Malachi 2 also mentions godly marriage & kids, (esp vs 13-16).
“Be not unequally yoke” 2 Cor 6:14. this verse has many applications. Marriage is one of them. If you have been in church long enough, you should know that not all married couples are happily married even if they are both believers. However, marrying a non-believer is one more if not a greater hurdle to cross or overcome.
Throughout OT, God has commanded Israelites not to marry gentiles because they will lead them away from God. David, Solomon, Samson and the list goes on, these are godly people who violated the commandment and pay the price.
Is not about morals (holier-than-thou-art-attitude) but spiritual positions. Paul in the above verse was telling the people not to put the yoke on two different type of animals when plouging the field because they have different height, strength, temper etc. In short, it dosent work.
Pray over it.
Hello there beloved brothers and sisters in Al-Masih (Jesus Christ)!
I do quite agree with LC’s comments above. It is far much more a blessing to be wedded to another fellow-believer in Christ, than say, to a Muslim (or Buddhist, Hjndu etc).
If you are a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ, then be patient for God to open the way and the doors for Him to provide with a Christian spouse. It makes much sense for harmony and blessings on the Home, than otherwise.
In Malaysia (or some middle eastern states for example), if a non-muslim marries a muslim, the non-Muslim party HAS to convert into islam out of necessity, or the Muslim side will not be permitted to leave Islam to marry a non-muslim, just look at the Azalina Jailani (Lina Joy) case for instance. What a pity for Lina and what an injustice done on her!
Moreso, if a muslim can get a non-muslim to convert to islam, via marriage, then that (original) muslim will be rewarded with a lot of pahala/hassanats (merits) to ‘help for the hereafter’. But what will you have?
So,dear brethren in Christ (especially the ex-muslims) do not be desperate and look for a muslim spouse – out of sheer desperation (or family pressures)! The Lord has someone MUCH moresuited for you and who is of the same faith as you now, and who will be a much greater blessing! So 2 Cor.6:14 is a great truth indeed.
Peace and joy in our blessed Savior to you all, Hamzah.
hi, im really in a fix, cuz im in a relationship with a muslim and im a christian. is there no way we can be together then? it is really hard to end this relationship since it has been going on for almost 2 years. My parents are saying if i continue this relationship, i would destroy my life, my future. he doesnt drive me away from God, he gives me the impetus to pray. i need help… what should i do?
Hi Carissa,
A simple question. Are you in Malaysia or another country? Singapore?
If in Singapore, it may be easy for you to marry in Civil Registry. In Malaysia this is ver hard becos they want you to marry islamic way, so you gotta convert to Isl.first.
IS HE willing to come to Christ?, since you claim that he ‘give you impetus to pray’…BUT to which God?? Jesus Christ or Allah of islam??
If he helps you to get closer to the Lord Jesus Christ, then is he willing to embrace Jesus as his own Lord and Savior?
Apparently that may not pose a problem…So will he?
Hamzah.
Carissa,
Still waiting for your reply…Hope you are still there!
Are you for REAL??
Wasalaam, br.Hamzah.
God is love. If you two love each other truly then you believe in the same God.
Nice but simplistic answer, ariel..:-))
Is God ‘love’ in Islam too?? We seriously wonder and question.
It just WON’T WORK if one party is muslim and the other christian.
The teachings of the Quran are so anti-Christian, that it forces the muslim to deny them fully.
Like what?
– Jesus Christ is the Son of God,
– Jesus Christ was crucified on the Cross in Jerusalem, 2000 years ago,
– Jesus Christ claimed explicitly – DIVINE Qualities for Himself.
Etc..etc.
So, it takes more that just the feelings of love to make Marriage to work out for a lifetime – or even life times!
Wasaallaam, Hamzah.
To hamzah..
You give your salam but does it even mean anything to you? Looks like you are a ex muslim which i am sad to think about. We are all humans and we have faith of some kinds. One thing for sure is both christian and islam believe in the same one and only.
Please dont give others your bias opinion. I believe that islam and christian can be unite in marriage as stated in the holy Al Quran. But it all depends on the person interpretation. Overall everybody have their own grave to answer for and if the will or “niat” of the person is pure then it will be okay. “Tuhan mahah pengasih dan penyayang” (god is loving and forgiving).
He is the one any only that will know your true intentions. But munafiq is something very serious and even though i know it wont mean anything to you, please look back and figure a way out.
Well, is there ANYTHING wrong to give my Salaams to people here??!
Why cannot you come to terms with the FACT that there ARE EX-MUSLIMS around in the world?
And there are MANY OF THEM, too..! ..:-)) And their numbers are growing more & more every day simply because they have realised the shallowness, emptiness and so many contradictions in islam and in the Quran, that cannot be reconciled with its truth claims!
Your opinion that these people are ‘lost and going to hell’ does not change the fact that they are actually going to HEAVEN and Paradise and going to be with God almighty.
About your term ‘Pengasih dan penyayang’ that you translated as ‘loving and forgiving’ is also wrong and salah…Unfortunately.
Most para muffassir translate ‘Pengasih dan penyayang’ as ”compassionate and merciful” and not like what you have rendered.
The proper word in Malay for ‘forgiving’ is ‘Pengampun’ and Not ‘Penyayang’ NOR ‘pengasih’..
Also, I sangat hairan that islam’s Allah is so-called ‘pengasih dan penyayang’ or ‘compassionate & merciful’, Because the quran shows his qualities that actually CONTRADICT Those names of his!
Yang lebih mencurigakan dan bercanggahan lagi dalam al-Quran, ialah hakikat bahawa Allah agama Islam itu MEMESONGKAN MANUSIA DAN MENYESATKAN INSAN YANG TELAH DICIPTAKANNYA!
* Surah 14 / 4 – “Maka Allah MENYESATKAN SIAPA yang dikehendaki-Nya, dan menunjuki siapa yang dikehendaki-Nya…”
* Surah 2 / 26 – “Allah MENYESATKAN KEBANYAKAN ORANG dengan perumpamaan itu..”
* Surah 61 / 5 – “Maka tatkala mereka terpesong, ALLAH TELAH MEMESONGKAN HATI mereka…”
* Surah 4 / 88-89 – “BARANG SIAPA YANG DISESATKAN OLEH ALLAH, maka engkau tiada memperoleh jalan untuk menunjukinya.”.
Serta di dukung oleh banyak ayat-ayat al-Quran lain yang mirip dengan ayat-ayat di atas!
Jikalau Allah swt itu benar-benar bersifat ar-rahman dan ar-rahim (yakni “Pengasih” dan “Penyayang”), mengapakah al-Quran sendiri ada menyebut bahawa Tuhan tidak mengasihi umat tertentu?
Lebih-lebih lagi, kenapa juga al-Quran ada menyatakan bahwa Allah menyelewengkan manusia dan menyesatkan hati manusia supaya mereka tidak dapat memperoleh apa-apa taufik dan hidayah, bimbingan dan petunjuk di atas Bumi ?
Amat jelaslah bahwa, tindakan Allah seperti ini bertentangan dan bercanggah secara langsung dan ketara dengan nama-nama-Nya yaitu “ar-rahman” dan “ar-rahim”. Kedua-dua sifat-sifat tersebut dengan jelasnya sudah dibatalkan dan ditentang oleh tindakan-tindakan Allah seperti mana yang disabdakan dalam Surah 14/4, surah 2/26, surah 61/5, surah 4/88-89 Dan ayat-ayat lain.al-Quran seperti itu!
This is another one of the greatest inconsistencies in islam and is found in the quran itself!
Wassalaam, Hamzah.
So you have found 4 lines. Great. ><
Sure! Those verses from the quran contradict all the claims of islam that Allah is so-called merciful and compassionate…!
If he truly has those qualities, then he won’t menyesatkan orang or mislead people away from the true path. If he is really a merciful god as you all claim, then he will NEVER lead his created people astray, like what is found in surah 61/5 :
“..So when they went astray Allah sent their hearts astray..”
and sura 2:26
“..By it HE MISLEADS many, and many He guides thereby. And He misleads thereby only those who are Al-Fasiqun (the rebellious, disobedient to Allah)..”
and sura 4 : 88
“..Allah has cast them back to disbelief because of what they have earned. Do you want to guide him whom ALLAH HAS MADE TO GO ASTRAY? And he whom Allah has made to go astray, you will NEVER find for him any way of guidance..”
Etc…you catch the drift..??
So, your Allah is a ‘loving & compasionate God?? By MISleading people he created to go astray Now, THATS a big fat joke..!!
Wasalaam.
I suggest you read the whole sura As-Saf, Al-Baqarah, Al-Nesaa and dont just copy-paste. Its for people like you. Anyway im not trying to spread Islam here. Everyone have their own grave to answer for.
BTW, I have ALREADY read AND studied those suras you mentioned, inside and out..!
As an ex-muslim, I know them very well indeed – even better than you, che Azhar..:-)
So, my studies, exegesis and analysis of these passages have led me to those conclusions-not the other way around.
And BTW, do you know if you are, for sure, going into paradise/heaven when you have gone to your grave??
Wassallaam, Hamzah.
Oh you do? Then you understand your argument is bias. Thus there is no need for me to say further.
Oh yes, I do che azhar..:-), and its absolutely NO bias. Unfortunately, your attacks on the Christian Bible and the Injil of Jesus Christ IS the Real bias..and blind prejudice.
Janganlah biarkan buruk-sangka dan semua prasangka anda terhadap ajaran Sayidina Isa al-Masih (Jesus Christ), membutakan mata dan hati anda kepada satu-satunya Jalan, Kebenaran dan Kehidupan yang telah turun dan tanzil ke dunia ini, Isa al-Masih Sendiri (Yahya 14 ayat 6).
Do ask God to help you open your mind, while you investigate more of the truth from here:
http://www.mykitabsuci.org/en/reader/Yahya/14
Wassalaam, Hamzah.
“Unfortunately, your attacks on the Christian Bible and the Injil of Jesus Christ IS the Real bias..and blind prejudice.”
And when did i do that? Look at yourself and what you are saying. Are you for real? Common stop being childish.
And before you say that, you can say the same to the muslims here too, who have been doing just exactly as have been described in my post.
There is simply no context to your argument. Grow up.
And the very same applies to you too, azhar…grow up..!
Yeah whatever.